CocoonThe Cocoon Method

Learn the tools when you're calm

Your nervous system
has a few gears.

Sometimes you’re revved up, anxious, angry, can’t stop. Sometimes you’re shut down, numb, flat, frozen. The sweet spot in the middle is where you feel okay and connected.

The tools below move you toward the middle from either side. Read them now, while it’s easy. You’ll trust them more when it isn’t.

Breath

  • Extended exhale

    for “Panic rising” · Wired & anxious

    A slow breath out is the fastest off-switch your body has.

  • Physiological sigh

    for “Anxious, can't sit still” · Wired & anxious

    That double breath in and long sigh out is something your body already does on its own.

  • Slow nasal breath

    for “Can't catch my breath” · Wired & anxious

    A slow breath out is the fastest off-switch your body has.

  • Extended exhale (gentle)

    for “Chest is tight” · Wired & anxious

    A slow breath out is the fastest off-switch your body has.

  • Box breath

    for “Big thing coming up” · Wired & anxious

    The even rhythm gives your racing mind one simple thing to hold.

  • Alternate nostril

    for “Overthinking everything” · Busy mind

    Slowing the breath right down brings the two sides of you back into balance.

  • Light energizing breath

    for “Foggy, can't think straight” · Busy mind

    Quick breaths wake the body up, like a few jumping jacks for your insides.

  • Sigh it out

    for “Angry right now” · Angry & agitated

    That double breath in and long sigh out is something your body already does on its own.

  • Cooling breath

    for “Irritable, everything's annoying” · Angry & agitated

    Breathing in over a cool tongue takes the heat out, literally.

  • Soft jaw, long exhale

    for “Tight jaw” · Held in the body

    You cannot relax a muscle you cannot feel, so we squeeze it first.

  • Belly breath

    for “Shallow breath” · Held in the body

    When you are stressed you breathe up in your chest. This drops it back down low.

  • Breath awareness

    for “Holding my breath without noticing” · Held in the body

    When you are stressed you breathe up in your chest. This drops it back down low.

  • 4-7-8

    for “Can't fall asleep” · Sleep & wind-down

    The long hold and longer breath out walk your body down into sleep.

  • Bellows breath

    for “Sluggish in the morning” · Low energy & foggy

    Quick breaths wake the body up, like a few jumping jacks for your insides.

  • Skull-shining breath

    for “Afternoon slump” · Low energy & foggy

    Quick breaths wake the body up, like a few jumping jacks for your insides.

Sound

  • Bhramari (humming)

    for “Heart is racing” · Wired & anxious

    The buzz you just felt is calming a big nerve that runs right through your throat.

  • Hum + hand on heart

    for “Heartbroken” · Emotional / parts

    The buzz you just felt is calming a big nerve that runs right through your throat.

Touch

  • Hand on heart

    for “Emotionally shut down” · Shut down & flat

    A warm, steady hand calms you the same way it would calm someone you love.

Movement

  • Shake, then breathe

    for “Frustrated and stuck” · Angry & agitated

    Animals shake off stress on the spot. You are built to do the same.

  • Tiny movements + breath

    for “Frozen, can't move” · Shut down & flat

    Animals shake off stress on the spot. You are built to do the same.

  • Squeeze and release

    for “Holding tension everywhere” · Held in the body

    You cannot relax a muscle you cannot feel, so we squeeze it first.

  • Shoulder drop

    for “Clenched shoulders” · Held in the body

    You cannot relax a muscle you cannot feel, so we squeeze it first.

Orienting

  • Orienting

    for “Spiraling about my health” · Wired & anxious

    Looking slowly around the room tells your body the danger is not here now.

  • Gentle lift, then settle

    for “Flat, nothing feels like anything” · Shut down & flat

    A small lift first, then a slow settle, so the body comes back online without a jolt.

Parts work

  • Long exhale + acknowledge

    for “An angry part wants to take over” · Emotional / parts

    The hard feeling is a part of you trying to help, even when it does not feel like it.

  • Both sides, no rush

    for “Torn between two pulls” · Emotional / parts

    Slowing the breath right down brings the two sides of you back into balance.

  • Drop the criticism one notch

    for “Harsh on myself” · Emotional / parts

    The hard feeling is a part of you trying to help, even when it does not feel like it.

  • Open breath for the wave

    for “A grief wave is here” · Emotional / parts

    The hard feeling is a part of you trying to help, even when it does not feel like it.

Titration

  • Titration breath

    for “Overwhelmed, too much at once” · Emotional / parts

    Too much at once floods you, so we take it one small piece at a time.

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