Learn the tools when you're calm
Your nervous system
has a few gears.
Sometimes you’re revved up, anxious, angry, can’t stop. Sometimes you’re shut down, numb, flat, frozen. The sweet spot in the middle is where you feel okay and connected.
The tools below move you toward the middle from either side. Read them now, while it’s easy. You’ll trust them more when it isn’t.
Breath
Extended exhale
for “Panic rising” · Wired & anxious
A slow breath out is the fastest off-switch your body has.
Physiological sigh
for “Anxious, can't sit still” · Wired & anxious
That double breath in and long sigh out is something your body already does on its own.
Slow nasal breath
for “Can't catch my breath” · Wired & anxious
A slow breath out is the fastest off-switch your body has.
Extended exhale (gentle)
for “Chest is tight” · Wired & anxious
A slow breath out is the fastest off-switch your body has.
Box breath
for “Big thing coming up” · Wired & anxious
The even rhythm gives your racing mind one simple thing to hold.
Alternate nostril
for “Overthinking everything” · Busy mind
Slowing the breath right down brings the two sides of you back into balance.
Light energizing breath
for “Foggy, can't think straight” · Busy mind
Quick breaths wake the body up, like a few jumping jacks for your insides.
Sigh it out
for “Angry right now” · Angry & agitated
That double breath in and long sigh out is something your body already does on its own.
Cooling breath
for “Irritable, everything's annoying” · Angry & agitated
Breathing in over a cool tongue takes the heat out, literally.
Soft jaw, long exhale
for “Tight jaw” · Held in the body
You cannot relax a muscle you cannot feel, so we squeeze it first.
Belly breath
for “Shallow breath” · Held in the body
When you are stressed you breathe up in your chest. This drops it back down low.
Breath awareness
for “Holding my breath without noticing” · Held in the body
When you are stressed you breathe up in your chest. This drops it back down low.
4-7-8
for “Can't fall asleep” · Sleep & wind-down
The long hold and longer breath out walk your body down into sleep.
Bellows breath
for “Sluggish in the morning” · Low energy & foggy
Quick breaths wake the body up, like a few jumping jacks for your insides.
Skull-shining breath
for “Afternoon slump” · Low energy & foggy
Quick breaths wake the body up, like a few jumping jacks for your insides.
Sound
Bhramari (humming)
for “Heart is racing” · Wired & anxious
The buzz you just felt is calming a big nerve that runs right through your throat.
Hum + hand on heart
for “Heartbroken” · Emotional / parts
The buzz you just felt is calming a big nerve that runs right through your throat.
Touch
Hand on heart
for “Emotionally shut down” · Shut down & flat
A warm, steady hand calms you the same way it would calm someone you love.
Movement
Shake, then breathe
for “Frustrated and stuck” · Angry & agitated
Animals shake off stress on the spot. You are built to do the same.
Tiny movements + breath
for “Frozen, can't move” · Shut down & flat
Animals shake off stress on the spot. You are built to do the same.
Squeeze and release
for “Holding tension everywhere” · Held in the body
You cannot relax a muscle you cannot feel, so we squeeze it first.
Shoulder drop
for “Clenched shoulders” · Held in the body
You cannot relax a muscle you cannot feel, so we squeeze it first.
Orienting
Orienting
for “Spiraling about my health” · Wired & anxious
Looking slowly around the room tells your body the danger is not here now.
Gentle lift, then settle
for “Flat, nothing feels like anything” · Shut down & flat
A small lift first, then a slow settle, so the body comes back online without a jolt.
Parts work
Long exhale + acknowledge
for “An angry part wants to take over” · Emotional / parts
The hard feeling is a part of you trying to help, even when it does not feel like it.
Both sides, no rush
for “Torn between two pulls” · Emotional / parts
Slowing the breath right down brings the two sides of you back into balance.
Drop the criticism one notch
for “Harsh on myself” · Emotional / parts
The hard feeling is a part of you trying to help, even when it does not feel like it.
Open breath for the wave
for “A grief wave is here” · Emotional / parts
The hard feeling is a part of you trying to help, even when it does not feel like it.
Titration
Titration breath
for “Overwhelmed, too much at once” · Emotional / parts
Too much at once floods you, so we take it one small piece at a time.
